10 Signs you’re dating a sociopath; charming on the outside, cruel on the inside

They are people who have no conscience, remorse or sense of guilt; they can be charming and manipulative; blending in with the rest of society, but are diagnosed with an antisocial personality disorder (TPA), better known as sociopatía.

Sociopaths look normal, but they are not capable of feeling basic emotions such as empathy or love. They are excellent actors and you might be leaving with one without even realizing it. Below we give a list of characteristics to know if you’ve fallen in love with a guy who suffers from this disorder, since in the long term can end up breaking your heart.

1. It is charming but superficial

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The Dr. Igor Galynker, director of the Department of Psychiatry at the New York City’s Mount Sinai Hospital, says:

There is something superficial in its charm. You can associate and disassociate from the feelings that show up very easily.

They can be empathetic when it suits them, unlike the psychopaths who never experience this feeling. Have looks very intense, and what you describe as “adorable”, but when you need their help give you the back.

2. Is bipolar…

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That is to say, his mood varies from one second to another, is like going out with two people at the same time. This is what Bonn reports:

This person may have changes of mood, unexpected, unstable and steep. You say something and suddenly enter into a rage. When a sociopath loses control or feels threat of losing, gets very nervous and it explodes.

3. Are very drivers

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Scott Bonn is a criminologist and author of the book Why We Love Serial Killers; he says:

When you start to notice that your partner is controlling excessively, dictating always where, when and how to go; trying to manipulate your behavior and to control who your friends are and what are your activities.

4. Tells you what you want to hear


Are the guys that know from memory such phrases are hackneyed that you wash the brain, so says relationship expert Seth Meyers:

Are those who cite the famous phrases of the donjuanes as: “you are the woman that I’ve always wanted”; all the cliches you can imagine and you have repeatedly seen in films and tv shows. They are professionals in the conquest, and of love, but if you look closely, in the background don’t feel genuine feelings. They don’t feel as normal people. Reflect what they see on television, act.

5. Abused your trust

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The author of Love Worth Making , and therapist new yorker, Dr. Stephen Snyder says:

People with trends sociopaths are accustomed to lying, so it is not so difficult for them to simulate feelings. Some are able to pretend that they are injured. Sometimes a sociopath will go to the conquest of a woman because she has a big heart and is motherly and vulnerable to want to take care of someone who has been wounded emotionally.

In you is looking for a person to fill their voids, but by his lack of empathy it may not meet any of your emotional needs.

6. It is too good not to believe

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David Wilson, a criminologist tells us:

Are that man or woman who are looking for a hole to skillfully to get closer, and you pay too much attention. We all love that. Is the issue with sociopaths: in the beginning tend to be very funny, charming and for that reason attract. Need to do this, because then you get used to it and all the information which you provided during the courtship. Set this closeness to the extent that it is useful.

When you have what you want, gradually leaving of paying attention, perhaps until the emergence of a new need.

7. You wonder why you have so few friends

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Have known but it is rare to hear talk of a close friendship. Bonn warns:

They are typically very evasive about the details of your personal life, your past relationships, evasive and cautious with what they have. And if you are irritated or upset when you put them to the test or the question is a very bad sign.

8. Justify your past

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Galynker says:

Probably tell that there was a past criminal, but is justified with: “it is not my fault, I just did it to me. I was coincidentally in the wrong place and I was charged”.

It may not be a criminal, but ends up evading responsibilities and all of the errors attributed to other people. If you fight for any reason will always be your fault and never his.

9. For some reason you end up solving their problems

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Wilson says:

Their lives are full of conflicts related to the loss of money or people or family, these relationships come down from one day to another. This is because sociopaths do not measure the risks, does not measure the consequences, they like then go all-out in search of sensations, but subsequently do not want to be responsible.

So if you have started to ask to borrow money, you end up answering the calls that you want to avoid or you feel more his mother than his girlfriend, it might be time to say goodbye.

10. Have you noticed your cruelty


According To Snyder:

It is good to observe how they treat the other people they live with. You might be surprised with what contempt do when no one is looking.

If you’ve noticed these characteristics in your partner can be likely that you’re going out with a guy as selfish and that you will not contribute anything to your life. As healthy as it is to say goodbye to it.