Despite what we believe, relations are not easy. With respect to marriage, this is a challenge that not everyone can face. That vote of “health and illness, wealth and poverty” will easily forget and develop a good sense of humor.
Both are necessary, as these tips:
1. Have projects together
Share activities and fulfill dreams is not a script to follow; It is a life plan together.
Jesus said to forgive seventy times seven, but maybe make us a lot more than those 490. A lasting relationship is based on forgiveness and understanding. In not taking things personally and learn to take the place of the other.
Who really they forgive “forgive but not forget”? There are people who claim to have forgiven but still use all available opportunities to raise the issue. Forgive without forgetting, at least if we talk about the relationship, is not it.
4. Form a team
When the time to face the difficulties of life comes, one of the good things in a relationship is that we have someone else traveling in the same boat as us. This will help us paddle when needed. At least that’s the idea.
If after a while we still have the same desires, opinions and beliefs. It is our decision; but when we commit to a relationship it is natural change: we can not be the same person we were before. We need to mature over the course of the relationship.
Your partner will change as time goes on in the relationship. Do not fight it; accept it, learn, be thankful, because that is life.
7. traveling together
Travel together require us to rely on each other in unpredictable ways. Also they expand our world view and lead us to value our relationship.
8. Do not take account
We talked about the value of forgetting. Now do not make a list of the faults but successes. Take note of what disappoints us is exhausting and child.
9. Admit your mistakes
This is both the easiest and most difficult thing to do, a simple gesture that will help you grow as a person and strengthen the relationship. Nothing is gained by blaming the other.
10. Celebrate your achievements
Whether it’s something related to work or personal achievement, everyone will find the opportunity to toast their good fortunes.
11. way encourage
We all have insecurities. In a solid relationship we can feel completely free to reveal, knowing that our partner will help us to overcome them.
12. Do not idealize the past or future relationship
No claim or take out the present events of the past, but neither precedence things that have not happened yet.
13. A circle of friends in common
One of the great joys of life is to meet people who become our friends. When they are both, there will be many more opportunities to enjoy activities together as a couple. Overall, good friends will appreciate us closer to our partner.
14. Invite your partner to family reunions
At least once. Perhaps, this may be all you need. Feeling that is already part of your life.
15. Respect your time
According to Dr. Phil, we have not evolved as a species or we have not yet seen enough to realize when our partner does not want to answer the question “How was your day?” At the time when he or she walks through the door.
16. Form a wide circle of friends
One of the greatest joys in life is to meet new people. And many of the people you will probably find you appreciate even more your partner.
17. Practice self-awareness
Look in the mirror and reflect on what you and the contributions you’re doing to your relationship. Are you being critical, unfair or defensive?
18. Avoid indirect
This is a cowardly way to communicate, if you have something to tell your partner, tell them.
19. Offer solutions, not just criticism
Anyone can criticize, but a good partner will provide a way out or solution to your problem.
20. Have good manners
The treatment must be based on respect, not screaming; Open the door, etc.